His Birthday

My hubby had a birthday this weekend which was exciting.  Birthdays aren't a big deal to him but they are to me.  I love any reason to celebrate really.  So I made a big deal about continuing the cheesecake tradition, went out and bought all the supplies then made it from scratch.  It was fun, my son got to lick the beaters and the cake was delicious.  His mom brought home a mud pie too, "just in case."  My husband said however that the cheesecake was his favorite and tasted like Trader Joe's cheesecake (which was his favorite before it was discontinued). 

So we had some fun at the movies and dinner.  Went and saw "Date Movie" which was hilarious probably especially for married couples and there were a few "awww" moments.  My husband, being the closet romantic that he is and being that it was dark in the theater and noone could see him do it, put his arm around me and squeezed me close.  It was so sweet, and at the time my heart melted like mud pie.

That night however, he had to go to bed early so he laid down while I cleaned up and when I finally came to bed he said, "I missed you."  Then he fell asleep and I caught up on some tv online.  When I was finally ready to lay down I shut the computer, turned over facing him and closed my eyes.  But I felt him run his hand through my hair and pull me closer to him.  Then he started kissing me sooo gently and sweetly.  It was just like a sweet "I love you."  He made my heart fly!  This continued for just a minute, which I wanted to last forever but then he stopped, turned on his back and went to sleep.  Was I disappointed it didn't turn into more?  I have to admit yes, but it was so sweet and loving that I was happy just feeling that until I eventually fell asleep too.

What a wonderful night

Tonight we hung out with my aunt who lives back in my home state of Cali.  It was great to see family and my husband was sweet a friendly.  Then on the way home we just chatted like we haven't done since I dont know when. He shared his hopes for the future of our favorite hockey team, the Ducks; funny/crazy stories he's heard or was a part of in his past; and we discussed our goals/and dreams.

Lately I've been giving him a hard time about his non-commital attitude about becoming a police officer.  Its his dream in life but he has put it on the backburner and now is the time to apply.  Ive been frustrated because he seems to be dragging his feet.  I dont know what changed but tonight he sounded excited again.  I hope it sticks!

Then when we came home tonight and the baby fell asleep we got to really spend some quality time together.  And it was great!

Opening up

When you are married to someone who doesnt share your faith it can be hard to open up about it.  My husband does believe the same things I do but he doesnt accept it as a part of his life.  However He is always willing to listen to me talk about them and he is very respectful of my faith.  Yesterday he let me explain my frustrations with his lack of faith, my worries about it and explained his values to me.  Im not happy about the differences in our faith but it was nice to be able to share my feelings.  It is always hard to do at first but I felt like God was telling me to.  So I did and my husband didnt criticize or get angry with me.

"I love you" Husker fan

     My husband speaks very limited sign language and is uninterested in going to Deaf social events or learning sign language.  He knows it is important to me though and so last  night after we got into a fight (after I had time to cool down) he flashed me the "I love you" sign.  It wasn't exactly an apology but it was thoughtful because he knows I am very into sign language and deaf culture.  Its kind of like him exiting his comfort zone to meet me where I am.  And what could be a better phrase to do this with than "I love you"?

Today we went to Estes Park, which is little tourist town in the mountains of Colorado.  My husband is not a mountain man and much more of a city guy and although all we did was walk around shops, he was uncomfortable.  One of my favorite things about Estes Park is that there are 2 Nebraska Huskers memorabilia shops.  We agreed that I could get a bumper sticker or something from one of the shops and so I was very excited.  Before we got to the shop though, we came across another sports shop with a mix of different gear from different teams and my husband got a Notre Dame hat for himself and secretly bought me a Nebraksa hat.  He then told the entire family about it and surprised me with it on the drive down the mountain!

Dinner and a Movie

Yesterday he took me to dinner and a movie.  It was a nice date night especially when we snuggled close in the theater and he opened doors for me. 


Today he drove me to the DMV so I wouldn't have to sit there bored alone.  We had some fun laughs actually inside the office it felt like back when we were dating and we would go out together and laugh at the world and life.  We don't really  do that so much anymore but today I got to feel that way again.


Tonight I laid my head on his shoulder while we were watching tv and he laid his head on top of mine.  Public and Private Displays of Affection are so fun and important to a woman.  He knows that they are more important to me than him and I know sometimes he does them just for me.  I love little those little things he does that really make me feel like he enjoys hanging out with me.

Proverbs 31:26

        As a Christian woman, and one who dreamed of being the perfect wife, I read and re-read Proverbs 31- "the perfect wife" chapter of the Bible.  When I got engaged, I read and re-read the chapter again.  As a new wife I read and re-read and read again this same chapter hoping something would get implanted into my heart, something I could use and be the perfect wife that would bring honor to my family, to my husband. 

         Of course we all fail sometimes, and for me that is more often than not.  I have become an expert failure, the stereotypical nagging complaining wife that media and society say a woman should be in order to exert her place of respect in the household.  Society is wrong, God is right.  Jesus never said, "Make sure to let the world know how often your husband throws his socks on the floor, puts you down, makes you change all the dirty diapers and then take out the trash."  Jesus didn't say, "Let off some steam on the phone to your sister or your friends."

         That is what we do though isn't it? Even the "most Christian" aren't afraid to agree with our mother-in-laws and complain about how he has changed into a lazy slave owner.  I am ashamed to admit that is the way I have behaved and it is no wonder why I am losing respect.

         Today he inspired me.  It was so simple, but lifted my spirits all night.  My husband thanked me for doing his laundry and having his shirt ready for work the next day.  Even typing that sentence makes my heart swell with pride and love.  Such a simple remark, and a grateful smile makes me so proud to call him mine.  he may be far from perfect but who isn't?  I don't thank God enough for bringing me "the one" even when I didn't believe in such a thing.  Now of course I do because of simple little remarks like his that brighten and enliven my most exhausting days.  I know that God created him for me because who else could have such an impact on my heart with such a simple sentiment?  I know he is the one.

         So from this inspiration comes a blog.  Dedicated to not one word of complaint but to give recognition to the little things he does worth recognizing.  Hopefully this will change my perspective of my husband, from course and cynical, to open and grateful.

from the words of a much wiser woman than me:

"She opens her mouth in wisdom, And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue."

Proverbs 31:26