My husband speaks very limited sign language and is uninterested in going to Deaf social events or learning sign language. He knows it is important to me though and so last night after we got into a fight (after I had time to cool down) he flashed me the "I love you" sign. It wasn't exactly an apology but it was thoughtful because he knows I am very into sign language and deaf culture. Its kind of like him exiting his comfort zone to meet me where I am. And what could be a better phrase to do this with than "I love you"?
Today we went to Estes Park, which is little tourist town in the mountains of Colorado. My husband is not a mountain man and much more of a city guy and although all we did was walk around shops, he was uncomfortable. One of my favorite things about Estes Park is that there are 2 Nebraska Huskers memorabilia shops. We agreed that I could get a bumper sticker or something from one of the shops and so I was very excited. Before we got to the shop though, we came across another sports shop with a mix of different gear from different teams and my husband got a Notre Dame hat for himself and secretly bought me a Nebraksa hat. He then told the entire family about it and surprised me with it on the drive down the mountain!
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
Tuesday, March 30, 2010
Dinner and a Movie
Yesterday he took me to dinner and a movie. It was a nice date night especially when we snuggled close in the theater and he opened doors for me.
Today he drove me to the DMV so I wouldn't have to sit there bored alone. We had some fun laughs actually inside the office it felt like back when we were dating and we would go out together and laugh at the world and life. We don't really do that so much anymore but today I got to feel that way again.
Tonight I laid my head on his shoulder while we were watching tv and he laid his head on top of mine. Public and Private Displays of Affection are so fun and important to a woman. He knows that they are more important to me than him and I know sometimes he does them just for me. I love little those little things he does that really make me feel like he enjoys hanging out with me.
Today he drove me to the DMV so I wouldn't have to sit there bored alone. We had some fun laughs actually inside the office it felt like back when we were dating and we would go out together and laugh at the world and life. We don't really do that so much anymore but today I got to feel that way again.
Tonight I laid my head on his shoulder while we were watching tv and he laid his head on top of mine. Public and Private Displays of Affection are so fun and important to a woman. He knows that they are more important to me than him and I know sometimes he does them just for me. I love little those little things he does that really make me feel like he enjoys hanging out with me.
Saturday, March 27, 2010
Proverbs 31:26
As a Christian woman, and one who dreamed of being the perfect wife, I read and re-read Proverbs 31- "the perfect wife" chapter of the Bible. When I got engaged, I read and re-read the chapter again. As a new wife I read and re-read and read again this same chapter hoping something would get implanted into my heart, something I could use and be the perfect wife that would bring honor to my family, to my husband.
Of course we all fail sometimes, and for me that is more often than not. I have become an expert failure, the stereotypical nagging complaining wife that media and society say a woman should be in order to exert her place of respect in the household. Society is wrong, God is right. Jesus never said, "Make sure to let the world know how often your husband throws his socks on the floor, puts you down, makes you change all the dirty diapers and then take out the trash." Jesus didn't say, "Let off some steam on the phone to your sister or your friends."
That is what we do though isn't it? Even the "most Christian" aren't afraid to agree with our mother-in-laws and complain about how he has changed into a lazy slave owner. I am ashamed to admit that is the way I have behaved and it is no wonder why I am losing respect.
Today he inspired me. It was so simple, but lifted my spirits all night. My husband thanked me for doing his laundry and having his shirt ready for work the next day. Even typing that sentence makes my heart swell with pride and love. Such a simple remark, and a grateful smile makes me so proud to call him mine. he may be far from perfect but who isn't? I don't thank God enough for bringing me "the one" even when I didn't believe in such a thing. Now of course I do because of simple little remarks like his that brighten and enliven my most exhausting days. I know that God created him for me because who else could have such an impact on my heart with such a simple sentiment? I know he is the one.
So from this inspiration comes a blog. Dedicated to not one word of complaint but to give recognition to the little things he does worth recognizing. Hopefully this will change my perspective of my husband, from course and cynical, to open and grateful.
from the words of a much wiser woman than me:
Of course we all fail sometimes, and for me that is more often than not. I have become an expert failure, the stereotypical nagging complaining wife that media and society say a woman should be in order to exert her place of respect in the household. Society is wrong, God is right. Jesus never said, "Make sure to let the world know how often your husband throws his socks on the floor, puts you down, makes you change all the dirty diapers and then take out the trash." Jesus didn't say, "Let off some steam on the phone to your sister or your friends."
That is what we do though isn't it? Even the "most Christian" aren't afraid to agree with our mother-in-laws and complain about how he has changed into a lazy slave owner. I am ashamed to admit that is the way I have behaved and it is no wonder why I am losing respect.
Today he inspired me. It was so simple, but lifted my spirits all night. My husband thanked me for doing his laundry and having his shirt ready for work the next day. Even typing that sentence makes my heart swell with pride and love. Such a simple remark, and a grateful smile makes me so proud to call him mine. he may be far from perfect but who isn't? I don't thank God enough for bringing me "the one" even when I didn't believe in such a thing. Now of course I do because of simple little remarks like his that brighten and enliven my most exhausting days. I know that God created him for me because who else could have such an impact on my heart with such a simple sentiment? I know he is the one.
So from this inspiration comes a blog. Dedicated to not one word of complaint but to give recognition to the little things he does worth recognizing. Hopefully this will change my perspective of my husband, from course and cynical, to open and grateful.
from the words of a much wiser woman than me:
"She opens her mouth in wisdom, And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue."
Proverbs 31:26
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